I will always be a new mom. As they age, so do new experiences. How could I be expected to know what to do when my 10 year old asks me if she needs a bra?
I’ll tell you what I did. (Blank stare+ jaw drop)
I am never really prepared for things like that so how can I say I am a wise professional mother. I don’t actually know if there is a term for being a pro but you get me.
My only claim I feel that I can have is my plan for them. Since they were born I knew what I wanted for them. I knew the kind of morals I wanted to instill in them. I started talking about the benefits of college at age 5. (It’s never too early folks!) My oldest is 10 and they both have career goals. It’s not all work and no play obviously. I step on legos. I get hit with beyblades. Extra curricular activities are great motivators. Moral of this paragraph is that I want them to be prepared. Though my plan may be solid I still have a lot to learn as a mom.
Open communication is a must. I never want my children to be afraid to talk to me. It works but has it’s surprises. I listen first and then choose my reaction after. I don’t want to freak out in front of my daughter when she says things like, ‘My best friend broke up with me.’ I thought to myself, well crap the time has come to give my daughter some kind of talk I was not prepared for. Had I reacted right then and there it would have blown up in my face. Since I spent a lot of time in my head trying to figure out how to handle this situation I find out the truth. It was a best friend break up. Apparently she had a new best friend and wanted to be just friends with Julia. It may not seem to be a big deal but this almost turned into a completely different conversation.
There is more. There is so much more.
I really hope jaw drops do not cause wrinkles.
Now although I acknowledge that I am constantly learning as a mom there are others with far more experience than myself and plenty of pennies for thoughts. Every parent is different. As far as nature versus nurture goes it’s up to you if you want to raise your children how you were raised or change things up. When it comes to an outside party some people tend to think all children are exactly the same and the advice is universal. It’s not always the case. Know that you do not have to change because someone feels they have a better plan for YOUR kids. This is your roller coaster you know? At the same time do not be afraid to ask for advice. Ever.
I love my kids. It is a wonderful adventure! I believe in my plan. I acknowledge that I am still learning. I can only hope that this ride will continue smoothly but as I have said before: change is constant.
Oh The Love~